This interpersonal conflict dates back to my middle school, but I can still remember it clearly. There was a debate competition among classes in school and I was in charge of the debate team of my class. There were about six students signing up for the debate and I need to choose only four of them. I went through a short interview with each student and found out who were better. However, one of the two who I decided to refuse was my best friend actually. I thought about how to tell her about it and then I decided to let the other person in charge to tell her. I originally thought the other person in charge would tell her that we, as a team that thought she were not good enough. However, the reason that I, myself thought her as not good enough was told instead. Besides, the situation that I let the other person told her the reason made her easy to believe that it was just me who decided to refuse her. This was quite an embarrassing situation; I did not know what to do and what to say to her. We saw each other every day but felt uncomfortable.
I think this interpersonal conflict is the general case of how to refuse the people who are good friends or even relatives in life, especially in workplace. It is definitely right to put your group in the first place, but how to solve the problem left for your own?